i've decided to listen to (and watch, if there's a slime tutorial) a musical every month and january was falsettos based on chris saying that if i'm ever in a musical mood I should prioritize it. here is my little book report about it.
premise:
falsettos takes place in 1979 through the early 80s and is about a family conundrum: marvin, a gay jewish man has divorced his wife trina (also jewish) and left his child jason (also, jewish) for his gay lover whizzer while still wanting the trappings of a picture perfect family. marvin talks about all of this to his also jewish psychiatrist mendel (i realize this bit might not be landing. the opening number of this musical is "four jews in a room bitching") who has recently taken trina on as a patient and is falling for her and breaking like every rule of his job ever by talking about all that with marvin. jason is a little weirdo who plays chess by himself and resists his parents urging him to see a psychiatrist and whizzer is noncommittal and demanding. whizzer reminds me a lot of fanon modern gay man meng yao, cursed statement sorry
hot takes:
not a hot take: this thing fucks. the first several songs are one punch after another. the second act does sort of blur together in my mind before "what more can i say" partway through and the absolutely GUTTING "what would I do?" as whizzer dies from aids—this sort of tonal dissonance is partially due to falsettos originally being two of three separate musicals that were stitched together. but this is a fantastic story about a nontraditional family and their little community (act two introduces the two lesbians from next door)
which speaking of aids,
this video essay says everything about how falsettos works as a story about aids while rent fails, which kind of boils down to that falsettos takes aids and death (and relational drama) more seriously than rent does. disclaimer I haven't seen rent, only heard rants, but they and this essay have mostly reinforced for me that rent did important things for the culture but is only really great if you grew up with it
speaking of two lesbians from next door it's so funny to me that from the age of 4 I grew up with two lesbians next door, my next door neighbors [redacted] and [redacted]. chris once asked me if i ever saw in their lives the life I might want to live one day, any kind of a queer awakening a la ring of keys from fun home (which i may watch this year), and I answered that i never did, because they were a white couple and so their happiness or unhappiness, the happiness they were allowed to have had nothing to do with me or what i would be allowed by my family. which is depressing as fuck and there is a lot to unpack there. i was going through it at the time!!! anyways [redacted] and [redacted] got gay married and gay divorced and i'm sort of ambiently sad that it was [redacted] who moved out. she made the best brownies. my family was never really close with them (maybe because my parents are HOMOPHOBIC) but we were good neighbors and even that kind of bare minimum thing still stands out in my childhood memories as a type of script for what neighborhood-based community can be like
which takes me back to how falsettos, like company, is about community and nontraditional family structures.
pineapplekita was talking about how falsettos resolves some of the lingering ache that company carries because company is about a single bachelor living in a world of cishet couples. bobby admitting that he needs love (in whatever form that may be) is the triumph of the story but the character remains in a sort of stasis of not being able to realize it, with the addition of the audience knowing exactly what he is up against (detailed out in the rest of the musical). i've written about this already,
over here though. falsettos takes all that desire and longing and shows you what it can be. with the overhanging horrors of the aids crisis.
which is why falsettos is like but unlike company, and these two are perfectly triangulated by ang lee's the wedding banquet (1993) which is about a gay couple pretending they are just best friends and that the chinese son is marrying a chinese daughter in law so his parents will leave him alone (they don't)
last little note, i think jason's low level homophobia which is targeted solely at his dad and not at whizzer or anyone else is HILARIOUS. it's about equal to a kid thinking it's gross when their parents kiss. when they say traumatize your parents back...